The Four Stages of Religious Growth

Awakening is a painful deconstruction of old belief systems. The stories told by parents, community, or culture begin to fall apart. For those awakening from the “Matrix,” this is normal.

The first stage is simplicity, where everything is right or wrong. The motive is to be right, and the world divides into good “us” and evil “them.”

The second is complexity, where clarity blurs and the focus shifts to success and failure. The world divides into winners and losers, with “us” as winners. Independence grows, but doubt is seen as a problem.

The third is perplexity. Honesty exposes bias and inconvenient truths. Black and white blend into gray. Life becomes a quest for what is true. Critical thinking becomes vital. Doubt is now a virtue—the doorway to truth.

The fourth is harmony, where integral, balanced spirituality is the goal. Compassion and humility are actualized. Knowledge about becomes knowledge of. Doubt is necessary for growth. Mystery is embraced.

Most people do not grow beyond simplicity. Complexity leads toward perplexity. Growth demands disturbance before insight. There is always pain before birth.

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Dr. Jay Forrest

Jay N. Forrest (D.Min.) is a Deistic Buddhist philosopher trained in Zen and Vipassanā, with advanced Buddhist studies at Harvard, Princeton, UVA, Naropa, Columbia, and Universiteit Leiden. He is a certified meditation teacher and the author of over a dozen books on Buddhist philosophy and contemplative practice.