Spiritual Deism

Forgiveness is a key that unlocks the prison you’re in. When you hold onto unforgiveness, the person who harmed you lives in your head, governs your reactions, and dominates your thinking. In that sense, you remain bound to the offender.

Unforgiveness allows the person to keep hurting you. It is like a sliver that burrows deeper over time. The more you dwell on the harm done, the worse you feel. It becomes a form of self-inflicted harm. By replaying the hurt, you deepen your own suffering.

The power of forgiveness is that it can set you free. It frees the mind and heart. To forgive does not mean to forget the offense; it means to release it. You no longer hold it against the person, and it no longer holds you.

Forgiveness is about your freedom. It does not mean what was done was right. It means you are larger than the wrong done to you. You let go of the offense, but you do not automatically restore trust. Forgiveness is a gift; trust is something that must be earned.

Strict non-dualism, such as Advaita Vedanta, teaches that only Brahman (the ultimate reality) truly exists. Nothing else is ultimately real. The world, other people, and all differences only appear to exist because of ignorance. They are not truly real, but illusory appearances without independent existence.

But if everything except Brahman is an illusion, then suffering, right and wrong, and personal responsibility would also be illusions. This creates a serious problem. If suffering is not real, why should we care about it? A view like this struggles to explain why ethics, compassion, and spiritual practice truly matter.

Although there is no question that Ultimate Reality is non-dual, there is no reason to deny the actual existence of the world. Both Being and Becoming can be real.

Qualified non-dualism offers a different, and arguably more grounded, view. It teaches that Brahman is one, but the world and individual souls are real events. They are not illusions, but are processes that flow from Ultimate Reality through its emanations.

This allows both unity and genuine difference to coexist. As a result, suffering, love, and moral responsibility are real and meaningful. It better reflects our lived experience and preserves the importance of ethics and compassion.

When discussing historical Deism, it is important to distinguish its early stages from its later ones. Early Deism was not a single, unified movement; as Wayne Hudson shows, there were many different kinds of Deism.

Early Deists believed in God, but not in the Christian conception of God or the pantheistic God of some philosophers. Their other religious beliefs varied. Some believed that God intervenes in the world, while others denied it. Only later did Deism become more unified.

The label “Deism” became a convenient term Christians could use for people who did not believe in the biblical idea of God. In some cases, people may have used the label “Deism” to avoid openly declaring more radical views. The risks of expressing religious dissent included persecution, loss of privileges, or even execution.

The problem is that the beliefs of actual Deists can get lost in the confusion. Add to that the fact that, in modern times, Deism is often reduced to a single definition, and the confusion is understandable. Only a deep study of Deism’s history can straighten that out.

Have you ever had the experience of being completely drained after talking to someone—like they pulled the energy right out of you? These are energy vampires.

If you are an introvert and an empath, you’ll understand this feeling very well. There are people who seem to actually drain your energy. At first, you might think it’s just you. But as you have repeated encounters with people like this, you begin to realize that they are people who are energy vampires.

An energy vampire is someone who takes more than they give in conversations and relationships. They leave you feeling tired, anxious, or depressed after interacting with them, even if nothing overtly “bad” happened. They often center attention on their own problems, drama, or complaints, without genuine curiosity about you.

I’m not sure of the full mechanism behind this, but it does seem that certain people draw energy to themselves. They feed off other people’s energy; they drain them.

The only way to respond to such people is to identify them and then avoid them as much as possible: limit time with them, set clear boundaries, and protect your attention.

As Spiritual Deists, we do not pray in the sense of requesting something. The universe is a closed system of cause and effect, and Ultimate Reality does not intervene to alter that order. We may reach toward God, but God does not intervene.

For this reason, our prayers are prayers of thanksgiving. Even positive psychology affirms that gratitude is something to cultivate; it supports human flourishing.

We may begin the day with a prayer of thanksgiving: “God, thank you for this day, the first day of the rest of my life.”

When we sit down for a meal, we may offer a prayer of thanksgiving: “Thank you, God, for this food, this breath, and this life.”

After meditation, we may offer a simple prayer of thanksgiving: “Thank you God.”

When we lie down at night, we may offer a prayer of thanksgiving: “Thank you, God, for this day. May I learn and grow, so that I may return to You my Source.”

There are times when we have to take a stand—when we must be on the side of right, good, and justice. There are times to stand up and speak out.

The problem is that we always want someone else to do it. But if it isn’t you, then tell me: who? And if it isn’t now, then tell me: when? The only thing that’s needed for evil to prevail is for good people to do nothing.

Of course, we have to use discernment and wisdom. Not every cause is a just cause; not every mission is the right mission for us. We have to weigh the strength of our own character, talents, and vocation.

Sometimes we must lead the resistance, and sometimes we have to follow. That depends on the situation, the people, the times, and a number of other factors. That’s why we need wisdom. We need to see things from God’s perspective. We need to see things, as the Stoics say, from above.