Nonbinary: A gender identification outside of the two-gender, binary system that many cultures recognize. – Kathryn Gonzales and Karen Rayne
From a very young age, I was aware that I did not fit in. I struggled with my identity.
My biological sex is male. And my sexual attraction has always been towards females. And my gender expression, the way I want to be perceived in the world, is male. So I am a straight white male, right?
From the moment I saw the yin yang symbol, I identified with it. I have a tattoo of it on my arm. The yin (black) refers to the feminine, and the yang (white) refers to the masculine.
I have occasionally explained that I am a man in touch with his feminine side. I have certain characteristics that are feminine. I have known this for years.
It was only by reading Kathryn Gonzales and Karen Rayne’s book that I realized that I am nonbinary. I am the yin and yang.
I have it easy. I “pass” as a cisgender man. My sex is male, my orientation female, and my expression masculine. My pronouns are he/him. Until this post, only my wife, son, and my friend Jessica knew.
I could have hidden it forever. I am only coming out to support people like Jessica who have it much harder. Until we walk in another person’s shoes, we really have no idea what they go through.