Never Complain, Never Explain

Here is a saying to remember, “Never complain, never explain.”

Complaining does not accomplish anything. It only makes us dwell on the problem. It makes the problem bigger, and our feelings sadder. Complaining only drains out strength, it does not solve anything,

Likewise, explaining is useless. If you have to explain yourself it is because someone doesn’t understand. If they know the situation, it’s because they don’t want to understand. Everybody comes at reality from a different perspective. It is usually not worth trying to bridge perspectives in something like explaining yourself.

This goes back to the idea of letting your yes be yes, and your no be no. Just do what’s right, and don’t bother explaining why. People will either get it or they won’t. Don’t waste your time with words. Waste your time in love. For deeds. Speak louder than words.

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Jay N. Forrest

Dr. Jay N Forrest is a Spiritual Teacher of the Anglican Middle Way, writing on Prayer, Meditation, and Mysticism. Jay became a Christian in 1983, attended Bible school, and eventually earned his Doctorate in Ministry. Jay served as a Protestant minister for 27 years, took catechism classes with the Orthodox Church of America, and spent about a decade practicing Buddhism. In 2005, Jay was baptized and confirmed into the Catholic Church, but has since joined the Episcopal Church.

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